You said that you would like to our thoughts on if grief ever goes finishes. I think grieving the lost of some one can take many forms deppending on how and when the person died. Personally my grief is sometims strongst for what never was or will be my mother died slowly during many years the years when I was growing as a teenager into an adult and when I was 20 years old she died. So the friendship that many get with their mothers when they grow up I never got and sometimes I grieve what should have been but was lost all those years ago. In that sense I do not think that grief really ever stops. At the same time I think that you never rellay stop missing the little things that anoid or made you smile about the person.
If we get old enough we all get to go though that process – and if we are lucky have others go though it for us eventually. By “lucky” having lived your life in such a way someone will grieve for you.
I went though a horrible time some years ago – a close friend had been murdered. Murder puts so many additional burdens on one’s soul since you know the act was evil and deliberate.
The best explanation of grief I ever heard – learned at that time, was that grieft is a “hole in your soul”.
Eventually the hole shrinks but never goes away.
If you want a bit of inspiration perhaps this story – which I rarely tell – will be helpful to someone.
My friend and I had walked our dogs – both of the same breed, along the river each morning.
When she was murdered I am walking my dog along the same path, and the memories are almost more that I could take.
Conversations long forgotten came flooding back.
I am waiting for the trial of the accused to start and in the meantime I am about to fly apart.
I said “God – if XXXXXX is fine and aware of us, give me a sign.
I didn’t ask, but rather demanded a rather pompous thing to do the Almighty but I was ready to fly apart.
Well, about 100 yards up that path was a small white object all by itself sitting in some grass.
I looked at it and it was a small portable room heater.
I had given her some of these to help her save on utility bills.
I thought that if God wanted to give me a sign, He sure knew what to send.
He didn’t take the pain away but at my most critical time reminded me that He was there.
And He cared.
So I guess, in writing this, that is why I so enjoyed your program so much.
When we lose someone or something we love, grief becomes a part of us. As time passes and with God’s love and help, we learn to go on and be happy again.God gave His own son up unto death so that we could live. He understands our grief.
My husband committed suicide on 9-15-2011 and this year has really been hard on my family and I. Its so hard to live with the questions, guilt and the regrets. Your video really helped me alot. I know I should put him in God’s hands but it is so lonely without him. Thank you for always having the words to make me feel better.
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You said that you would like to our thoughts on if grief ever goes finishes. I think grieving the lost of some one can take many forms deppending on how and when the person died. Personally my grief is sometims strongst for what never was or will be my mother died slowly during many years the years when I was growing as a teenager into an adult and when I was 20 years old she died. So the friendship that many get with their mothers when they grow up I never got and sometimes I grieve what should have been but was lost all those years ago. In that sense I do not think that grief really ever stops. At the same time I think that you never rellay stop missing the little things that anoid or made you smile about the person.
This website for John has helped me deal with so mant things in life. Thank you to John’s wonderful family. God bless you John. See you in heaven.
Well, it’s been almost three years and it hasn’t yet. I don’t think it ever will completely end either. It just gets easier somehow.
If we get old enough we all get to go though that process – and if we are lucky have others go though it for us eventually. By “lucky” having lived your life in such a way someone will grieve for you.
I went though a horrible time some years ago – a close friend had been murdered. Murder puts so many additional burdens on one’s soul since you know the act was evil and deliberate.
The best explanation of grief I ever heard – learned at that time, was that grieft is a “hole in your soul”.
Eventually the hole shrinks but never goes away.
If you want a bit of inspiration perhaps this story – which I rarely tell – will be helpful to someone.
My friend and I had walked our dogs – both of the same breed, along the river each morning.
When she was murdered I am walking my dog along the same path, and the memories are almost more that I could take.
Conversations long forgotten came flooding back.
I am waiting for the trial of the accused to start and in the meantime I am about to fly apart.
I said “God – if XXXXXX is fine and aware of us, give me a sign.
I didn’t ask, but rather demanded a rather pompous thing to do the Almighty but I was ready to fly apart.
Well, about 100 yards up that path was a small white object all by itself sitting in some grass.
I looked at it and it was a small portable room heater.
I had given her some of these to help her save on utility bills.
I thought that if God wanted to give me a sign, He sure knew what to send.
He didn’t take the pain away but at my most critical time reminded me that He was there.
And He cared.
So I guess, in writing this, that is why I so enjoyed your program so much.
Every week was a reminder that God was there.
And he cared.
When we lose someone or something we love, grief becomes a part of us. As time passes and with God’s love and help, we learn to go on and be happy again.God gave His own son up unto death so that we could live. He understands our grief.
My husband committed suicide on 9-15-2011 and this year has really been hard on my family and I. Its so hard to live with the questions, guilt and the regrets. Your video really helped me alot. I know I should put him in God’s hands but it is so lonely without him. Thank you for always having the words to make me feel better.